Many moons ago when I was young and knew it all, I heard some homespun wisdom that has stuck with me through the years. Sadly, it is just recently that I’ve realized the reason it stuck with me was due to wisdom in those words. What can I say, I’m a slow thinker sometimes.
I was in my late teens or early 20s and over at a friend’s house. We were in a rush to go out and do whatever it is that we did as youngsters. My friend had just finished some laundry and she threw it on her bed so we could leave. Her mom looked at the pile of laundry and said: “You’ll never sleep happy on wrinkled sheets.” We rolled our eyes and went on our way.
As the years passed, many nights as I laid down to sleep on my wrinkled sheets I would recall that moment in time. I slept fine on wrinkled sheets. Whatever! Old people anyway.
I was not raised in a home of neat freaks. We were more of a “stash and dash” cleaning style when company was on the way. As an adult with a home of my own…let’s just say I’m not always the tidiest person around. It’s a little embarrassing to admit the amount of time it took me to realize how and when to clean various aspects my home.
For the second time in my life, I’ve started working the FlyLady program. This time, I’m using it with an app that we have been using for several years, Cozi. The last time I did the program I made a physical journal which I still have. This time around, I’m all about the app. I love this system because it is so easy to adapt to my home and my life. If you’ve never heard of it, basically you clean your house every five weeks. It’s also a great way to declutter. I haven’t gotten to that part yet but I’ll get there.
At this time I’m using the Morning Routine, Weekly Home Blessing, and the Weekly Zones. I won’t lie, this week is the kitchen and I’m not looking forward to it, the laundry room shouldn’t be too bad though. This will be my week 5, so once this week is done I’ve worked through the entire house. For me, this works because even though I’m cleaning, I’m cleaning something different. Routines without being too routine are essential for me post-recovery.
So what prompted this post? My sheets. It’s a small thing but Grandpa is particularly happy when the bed is made. He isn’t one to grump and complain if I don’t get to it but knowing that this small thing isn’t so small to him makes it more important to me. I’m happy to let my husband sleep happy on non-wrinkled sheets.
It’s more than sheets, though. The cleaner I get the house the more content I am. When the house is clean I can create in my studio with a clear mind and a clear conscience. As I am not able to work outside the home any longer, we’ve gone back to more traditional roles. I see the housework as my job. This is an opinion that Grandpa and I differ on, another blessing in disguise. I do love being married to a man who will cheerfully load the dishwasher.
Every week we work on the home blessing together. In a mere 30 minutes (yay timer!) we are able to vacuum, mop, dust, clean mirrors, empty trash and wipe the fingerprints from doors and switches. Again, that’s my custom Weekly Home Blessing list. Some of the things on the original list I already was doing at another time.
One of my favorite encouragements from FlyLady, and you will see it quite often is this: “You are never behind. Jump in where you are.” It reminds me of some other wisdom shared with me during a pretty rough patch of my life. I wish I had a quote but this time you’ll just get a paraphrase. I was quite discouraged and quite frankly I was ready to give up on life and die on my couch. That’s when my friend Sooz told me “You can sit on the side of the road or you can get up and start walking. A year will still pass, where do you want to be?”
So…where do you want to be? Until next time…